I’ve been playing with makeup for as long as I can remember. When I was elementary school, it came in the form of red lipstick and as much glitter as I could possibly coat myself in for dance. Middle school was an unfortunate run-in with a shimmery bronzer that I thought was a genius idea to apply all over my face. In high school, I probably spent hours watching tutorials and practicing how to do the perfect smokey eye (much to my chagrin, I still looked like a raccoon most mornings). I spent every dollar I could get on NYC lipstick from Walmart in every shade possible, and the day I could finally buy the original Naked palette with money earned was one of my proudest moments. Makeup to me was an escape, a way to get out of my own head and the demons I could often find there, a place where troubles could rarely find me. I often forget sometimes that it’s not that way for everyone.
A startling reminder of that fact came to me in meeting a girl my own age, reduced to tears, overwhelmed at just how many options there were to choose from in the store. Never having worn makeup before, she had heard tinted moisturizer was a great place to start, but was also told by her friends that she was going to need full coverage, powder, contour and the works. When we got into an honest conversation about what exactly she would be comfortable with, what she truly wanted, it really was just the tinted moisturizer. Everything else she didn’t know how to use and scared her, and that is perfectly fine. The encounter for me was a stark reminder about how much in today’s time we constantly see full face, full coverage glam and how that has become the standard that we hold ourselves.
The thing I think is often forgotten about makeup is that there is no one standard that anyone should be held to about it. Makeup is all about what makes you feel beautiful, confident, and comfortable in your own skin. If that’s a full face of glam, then good for you. If that’s nothing at all, then also good for you. Makeup shouldn’t be something that makes you feel forced to wear or make you uncomfortable in your own skin, instead it should make you feel at home. And just like everything else in your life, though, what makes you comfortable can change. Where glam for me was once an easy, everyday occurrence, after a year in quarantine, I am much more comfortable in a natural look that let’s my bare skin peak through (which with how much I spend on skincare, is probably a good thing). Can I still rock my full coverage/contour when the mood hits me? Absolutely. Am I also found most of the time nowadays in mascara and bb cream only? Also yes, because it’s what I’m in the mood for and makes me feel beautiful that day. All that really matters when it comes to makeup is what makes you feel good.
So, lets embrace our bare-faced babes the same way we do our full-face divas, and have no shaming going either way. Because how we do makeup is an expression of our individualism and what makes unique, and no one should be ashamed of that!
Thank you so much for reading, and just as a reminder, I’ll have a new post up every Friday at 12 CST. My socials are all linked if you want to give them a follow, and I hope you have an amazing week. Till next time!